SOCIAL PROBLEMS FACED BY INDIAN MEN
Men
are often portrayed as emotionless, abusive, party-freaks, criminal-mind and
with many more words, but in reality nobody even thinks that men can suffer
from any problems during their lifetime, society is always brutal and harsh
towards men, that is the major condition why we doesn’t have any protection
laws for men, when we have protection laws even for animals. India have
National Commission For Women who take cares of women’s right in India, we have
National Commission For Minorities who take cares of rights given to minorities
but we doesn’t have any commission who take cares rights for men, even in the
situation when we have nearly 82% of tax payers were men, but if you have
noticed in budget session you can easily find out that there were “zero” amount
sanctioned for protection and upliftment of men. Let’s look upon some social
problems faced by Indian Men in daily life.
¤ Burden of
Responsibilities
In a single day of 24 hours
he has to take responsibility as a Husband, Father, Son and Employee. His day
starts with rush towards office and to take children to school, if he is late
to office then he is ready to listen harsh words from his boss, after a long
day of working, he go to his home thinking that now he will have some peace of
mind but majorly no husband find peace when he reach home, not in a condition
if he is late because of any reason. There were plenty of works waiting for him
as soon as he reaches home. He has to take responsibilities as a son towards
parents, he has to take care of every need of them. There was a situation, when
every men find himself helpless when he is stuck in a conversation between his
mother and his wife. Both wants that he should take their side. As a father his
children see him as a person who will fulfill their demand, and men always love
their child from deep heart, they are attached and are ready to give a
comfortable life to them and see them successful in their life. But mostly in
custody cases, courts are not agree with this and rarely give custody to
father. Men work 24*7 to fulfill all his responsibilities.
¤ Burden of Expectation
Every parents expect from
their child to fulfill their dreams, what they haven’t achieved in their life
they want their child should achieve the same, if you want to see an example of
it, you can roam around Mukherjee Nagar, Delhi area, which is a hub for IAS and
Judiciary aspirants. Maximum number of aspirants who are male definitely say
that they are doing this just because their parents want it, not because they
want it. It is a burden of expectation who abet them to suicide if they are
unsuccessful. Consistently their parents told them you have to achieve, if you
achieved then you will be married to a good girl, we have a good reputation in
society, a hindi saying, “Beta humara naam roshan karega”.
¤ Being Emotionless
Men never got a chance to
show his emotions unlikely to women, who can cry if she feels bad, society is
so rude towards men that he has no right to cry. Not to a small male child, his
father or his mother will told him to stop crying because “boys don’t cry”.
Because men doesn’t have a chance to show his emotions, maximum number of men
have gone through a stage of depression in their life-time. Believe that men
have every emotion and they are very much sensitive towards every situation.
¤ Forced to work in Hazardous
Situation
If it is a hazardous and
dangerous work, call “men” he will do it. Men is always forced to work in
hazardous working condition where he has a danger to his life. From handling of
toxic substances to working under sewage pipes, he is agree to do it every work
which can provide his family a sustainable life. I have seen this republic day,
when parade is hosted by a women and giving guard of honor to the President of
America, I feel proud of it and on my country, that day I came to know that we
have such a huge women army in our country but still I never heard that women
soldier fighting a war or taking part in any execution of militants. Even I
came to know that they have plenty of advantages in that job which men couldn’t
have even when they fought real wars and stand in -45˚C temperature in Siachin.
¤Shorter Life
Women is always lives longer
than men, it is a reality that men have a shorter lifespan then women. In a
report by United Nations on gender, they have shown that women have average 65
years of life that to men who have 62 years of life.
(Picture:
Presentation of gender statics in UN Stats Report)
¤ No Choice of life
A men cannot have choices if
we talk in respect of work, it’s a taboo in our society if a man doesn’t work
or doesn’t earn. If he want to sit at home and want to play the role of a
home-maker and want’s his wife to work outside than society will never accept
him and call him with different abusive names. Even every parents want their
child to earn properly so that he will be married soon and according to his
parents he will be settled down. Is he really “settled” against his wish? What
if he wants to pursue his life to fulfill his dream? What if his marriage will
not work-out? Who will be held responsible for that? If a men will over-time in
work, then there will be complaint that he will not give time to his family. If
he chooses a life where he is going for a shopping frequently, gossiping with
friends, hanging out with them, watching daily soaps, most important not
working, and
attending kitty-parties then you couldn’t because society haven’t give you
permission to enjoy or choose your life, you have to take abuses of society because it’s not a men’s life, it can’t be so easy.
¤As an ATM
Men is often tagged as an
ATM, may be some of you see a tag written on a car or a T-Shirt saying’ “My Dad
Is My ATM”, it’s not about only few people who thinks that men as a ATM, it’s
more than that, you can see a live example if you can go to a divorce case or a
maintenance case hearing, It’s always on men’s side who is to be told to give
alimony to his wife or maintenance, if he is find disobeying court order’s than he will be
behind bars. Recently a court have given order that men have to take care of his
parents, wife & children. Subsequently, in one more decision, Supreme Court
of India have given direction that live-in couples will be presumed married, in
case of Dhannulal & others v Ganeshram & others on 08 April 14, 2015,
The Supreme Court has since 2010 consistently ruled in favour of couples living
together as husband and wife, giving the women the right of a wife. A bench of
Justice MY Eqbal and Justice Amitava Roy said continuous cohabitation of a
couple would raise the presumption of valid marriage and it would be for the
opposite party that they were not legally married. This means that a live-in
women can file all cases that can be filed by a wife, even she can demand for
maintenance in case of break-up.
By looking all the facts and
situation in which men pursue his life, it’s always a difficult task to sustain
life as a men, and especially in India where we have no laws for protection of
rights for men. As Judiciary always held liable and feminist always accuses all
men community for an act of a single men. It’s because of these feminist
scenario in India which dignify the status of Indian Men at Global level,
recently a man is declined by a German university just because he is a man and
he is from India. According to NCRB Data almost 65,000 married men commit
suicide every year in respect to women, which are very much less in number.
This problem cannot be over looked, Government of India should look into this
current situation of men and have to make some protection laws for men and a
commission who take cares all of the rights for men.
